So you have met a new guy. But what are the signs that he is Mr Right? How do you know if he is the one, your soul mate, that you can be happy ever after with?

Is it Your Intuition?
Often you will know the moment you meet someone that there is something special about them. It’s that ‘eyes meeting across the room’ feeling. We are not talking about sexual attraction here, but something deeper. It’s the same feeling that you might get when you first meet someone who is destined to become a great friend. Your intuition tells you that there is some link between you and this person – like you already know them. There is no desperate desire, just the feeling that it is right that you should know this person.

This is the feeling that people describe when they meet their soul mates. But remember, just because he is a soul mate does not necessarily mean that he is the right life partner for you. There are many kinds of soul mate. Sometimes they are family, sometimes they are just very good friends. So this intuition by itself is not enough to identify your Mr Right. If you find he is not available, or not interested in you, accept it and be friendly. There will be some other purpose to your getting to know him.

Is It Synchronicity?
Synchronicity is the phenomenon of meaningful things happening together in such a way that they are linked, although one thing did not cause the other. It is as if there is a pattern to the events that is showing you that you are going in the right direction. If he is the right guy for you, then getting together should not be too much of a struggle. You will find everything falling into place as if it was ‘meant to be’.

If there are obstacles now and then, they will be overcome; generally, the path is smooth. Sometimes you may meet the right person at the wrong time. Synchronicity is not there and if you try to force a relationship to happen, it will hit a brick wall. Better to let him go. If he is your Mr Right, he will come back into your life again later, when it is the right time for both of you.

Depth
When you get together with Mr Right, of course you will both fall in love. But most people fall in love often. By itself, that is not necessarily a recipe for living happily ever after. Try to look beyond the overwhelming emotion of love and think about whether this is a person you will still want to live with when the first rush of love has died down – as it will. If you find this hard to imagine, consider what you would think if he was a friend of yours.

Do you have plenty of interests in common, or are you just tagging along for his sake? Do you have the same hopes and expectations of life? Do you have the same attitudes to questions like job security, insurance and money management? Do you get along with each other’s families and friends?

These points will be important later down the line. All of them are signs that he is Mr Right – not just the man of the moment.

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Relationships matter. As a society have we become so caught up in ourselves and ‘me time’ that our relationships cease to matter anymore? The computer and cell phone has given us a way to interact with one another without spending any face time. It’s all done by the press of a key on a keyboard. However, the facts remains that with all the texting and email, you can’t stop time and create memories or snapshots with your family and friends.

How do you stop time? How does one capture the very time, the very moment of an event in their life? You can’t capture a moment in your life if you fail to recognize it occurring before you. Sometimes our moments occur without our own personal knowledge, but may be captured by an onlooker or the other person involved. This snapshot of time standing still could have happened unexpectedly or was intentionally orchestrated. What are these captured snapshots and how can we assure ourselves of being able to create more?

Einstein talked about time being relative. Some may argue that you cannot stop time, but if we delve closer into this assertion there is an experiment where you stare at the second hand on a clock while you that time has stopped as the second hand appears to stall while in motion just for a moment. There are some that say it is an optical illusion drawn from the conscious mind. That may be true, but we all have had moments where we have sensed our second hand had momentarily stood still.

The passage of time is not about the second hand on a clock, but about our relationships with people especially those in your life that bring you the most joy. When time is captured, it stands still. It becomes defined as “in the moment” because time becomes suspended while the event is occurring. The experience, the memory, the moment created lingers like the feeling you get from the innocence of a child’s hug or the faint smell of lingering perfume or cologne from your lover as you release each other from a loving embrace. So, instead of investing in materials to save your marriage or get your ex back, think of the moments when time stood still and the feeling your experienced with that person and that will guide you back to how to save your relationship.

Relationships do matter. When the moment is there, you absentmindedly reminiscence about it while you’re stuck in traffic or waiting for the elevator. It’s like good food or fine wine which lingers heavily as it encapsulates you as time stood still just for that instant, just for that moment. And, if you’re lucky, you’ve created many of them to relive continuously throughout your life. For some, time stood still at the birth of your children, your first kiss, your first intimate encounter and yes, the ache in your heart over the first argument with someone you love dearly.

Have you thought about it now? How do you capture the moment? How do you stop time? Besides the use of a voice recorder, photograph or video the only other way to capture the moment is through our memories which sometimes can’t be counted upon to be an accurate account.

How do you capture time? Why you live each day creating those special moments with the people you care about the most. Each time you look in your child’s face and see yourself in their eyes you create a moment where you capture the significance of their existence. When you hold your elderly parent or loved one in your arms as you twinge with empathy at their frailty recalling the times that you relied on them for their strength and invincibility. Now you have taken their place.

You capture time by creating memories with the people in your life that matter because you couldn’t imagine your life without them in it. They make you feel safe. Sometimes they make you angry. They make you laugh and sometimes even cry. After these emotional and mental snapshots comes a quiet remembrance when time stood still for a moment and you swear you could hear the ever so lightly whisper of “I love you” only heard in silent understanding by those present as the slight pause in time occurred.

There are some of us who may choose to freeze the moment longer than necessary. We create a snapshot where you bid an extended unspoken farewell out of anger or misunderstanding as you move them further away from you with an awkward distance that neither of you can truly comprehend. Time frozen in hostility sometimes can never be forgiven. It just hangs suspended like a lone icicle on a snow filled roof top basked in heavy stillness. A coldness where the path to tolerance has been shut down by pride and a steely unwillingness to just “let it go” and move forward.

We all have the choice of how we will stop time and create our snapshots with or without our loved ones in our lives. However, we all know that the most pleasurable stoppage of time is when we’re in the zone and our family and friends are the focal point, our clock, our second hand.

Go out and create moments where you can see, hear and feel when time stood still because of the moments and your life’s snapshots you’ve created. And, as one last piece of advice, while you’re present in the moment, promise yourself to welcome the stoppage of time, savor the experience with peaceful surrender, as you deliberately take in this moment, this time, this life, your life.

Some people end up in divorce court or break up because they wait too long to find solutions to their problems. At times, those involved in volatile relationships have the mindset that if they work harder at ‘it’ the can either deal with the issues or they will go away. However, if you are not equipped with the skills, it really doesn’t matter how hard you work at it. For more information, visit my website at: http://www.u2canhavesuccess.com/relationshipsmatter.htm.

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