Relationships and Dating: Trying to Say I Love You? It’s Really Very Simple.
How to say “I love you” ever been difficult to master? Are you the type that just can’t utter those three words without shying away from it, feeling you may get rejected or even being to embarassed to say it? Well, have you ever thought about how to tell your love these words without having to say anything? It is possible, you know. Everyone doesn’t have to hear those words to know that they are loved.
There are many ways to tell someone you love them without the gushy sweet sounds of those three little words. However, the important part is that the receiver has to know that this is your love language and not be expecting you to verbally say the words despite your actions towards them.
Some examples of filling your lover’s love pool (creating a love reservoir) is when you know they like this special type of chili and you can only get it during the winter season. While out running errands, you go by the restaurant that serves it and pick up a bowl for your partner who of course is not expecting it.
Or maybe you decide to join a cake decorating class and your husband surprisingly pipes up that he wants to join also as an effort to spend more time with you with one of your interests. Plus, when you get there he’s the only guy in the class and even learns how to decorate a cake better than you!
You know the experts say we become desensitized to violence; we are also getting to the same point with expressing our love to one another. It’s either lost in a sea of forgetfulness, a bad argument or indifference because your partner did something you didn’t like and you don’t have the courage to confront them. The love you may have for your partner is withheld, it becomes conditional and then an unseen wall develops between you both where no love can either seep in or penetrate the wall you’ve created.
There are only meaningful ways to send your love without having to say those three words. Sometimes those three words get lost in translation because they stop meaning anything because they are used so often and frequently. They become customary like, “Good morning, how are you?” Telling someone you love is suppose to matter and make them feel the impact of those words rather than hearing them without any signs of a reaction. For example you could:
Do something totally out of character. If your mate can tell others that you would never do a particular activity or act, do it. Do it for them as a means to show them they matter. Isn’t that what love is really all about? We sacrifice our own selfish contentment for those of another?
If your partner knows you hate sending cards, but they love receiving them. Do it, for them. If you don’t send cards for any reason, surprise your lover and leave a card for them to find inside their car, briefcase or purse. Inside the card, just sign it, thinking of you, with love.
When you’re at a social gathering or even at home busy with your family, find your partner with your eyes, meet their gaze and send them a smile, nod or wink. This communicates your secret language that only the two of you understand.
When sending love it’s not about how many times you say, “I love you”, but it’s really the number of times you’re able to take your mate’s breath away like when you take that first sip of coffee and get that warm feeling that travels throughout your body or when someone touches your soul with sweet nothings that can make you blush uncontrollably. That’s love, that’s how love feels.
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