Relationships matter. As a society have we become so caught up in ourselves and ‘me time’ that our relationships cease to matter anymore? The computer and cell phone has given us a way to interact with one another without spending any face time. It’s all done by the press of a key on a keyboard. However, the facts remains that with all the texting and email, you can’t stop time and create memories or snapshots with your family and friends.

How do you stop time? How does one capture the very time, the very moment of an event in their life? You can’t capture a moment in your life if you fail to recognize it occurring before you. Sometimes our moments occur without our own personal knowledge, but may be captured by an onlooker or the other person involved. This snapshot of time standing still could have happened unexpectedly or was intentionally orchestrated. What are these captured snapshots and how can we assure ourselves of being able to create more?

Einstein talked about time being relative. Some may argue that you cannot stop time, but if we delve closer into this assertion there is an experiment where you stare at the second hand on a clock while you that time has stopped as the second hand appears to stall while in motion just for a moment. There are some that say it is an optical illusion drawn from the conscious mind. That may be true, but we all have had moments where we have sensed our second hand had momentarily stood still.

The passage of time is not about the second hand on a clock, but about our relationships with people especially those in your life that bring you the most joy. When time is captured, it stands still. It becomes defined as “in the moment” because time becomes suspended while the event is occurring. The experience, the memory, the moment created lingers like the feeling you get from the innocence of a child’s hug or the faint smell of lingering perfume or cologne from your lover as you release each other from a loving embrace. So, instead of investing in materials to save your marriage or get your ex back, think of the moments when time stood still and the feeling your experienced with that person and that will guide you back to how to save your relationship.

Relationships do matter. When the moment is there, you absentmindedly reminiscence about it while you’re stuck in traffic or waiting for the elevator. It’s like good food or fine wine which lingers heavily as it encapsulates you as time stood still just for that instant, just for that moment. And, if you’re lucky, you’ve created many of them to relive continuously throughout your life. For some, time stood still at the birth of your children, your first kiss, your first intimate encounter and yes, the ache in your heart over the first argument with someone you love dearly.

Have you thought about it now? How do you capture the moment? How do you stop time? Besides the use of a voice recorder, photograph or video the only other way to capture the moment is through our memories which sometimes can’t be counted upon to be an accurate account.

How do you capture time? Why you live each day creating those special moments with the people you care about the most. Each time you look in your child’s face and see yourself in their eyes you create a moment where you capture the significance of their existence. When you hold your elderly parent or loved one in your arms as you twinge with empathy at their frailty recalling the times that you relied on them for their strength and invincibility. Now you have taken their place.

You capture time by creating memories with the people in your life that matter because you couldn’t imagine your life without them in it. They make you feel safe. Sometimes they make you angry. They make you laugh and sometimes even cry. After these emotional and mental snapshots comes a quiet remembrance when time stood still for a moment and you swear you could hear the ever so lightly whisper of “I love you” only heard in silent understanding by those present as the slight pause in time occurred.

There are some of us who may choose to freeze the moment longer than necessary. We create a snapshot where you bid an extended unspoken farewell out of anger or misunderstanding as you move them further away from you with an awkward distance that neither of you can truly comprehend. Time frozen in hostility sometimes can never be forgiven. It just hangs suspended like a lone icicle on a snow filled roof top basked in heavy stillness. A coldness where the path to tolerance has been shut down by pride and a steely unwillingness to just “let it go” and move forward.

We all have the choice of how we will stop time and create our snapshots with or without our loved ones in our lives. However, we all know that the most pleasurable stoppage of time is when we’re in the zone and our family and friends are the focal point, our clock, our second hand.

Go out and create moments where you can see, hear and feel when time stood still because of the moments and your life’s snapshots you’ve created. And, as one last piece of advice, while you’re present in the moment, promise yourself to welcome the stoppage of time, savor the experience with peaceful surrender, as you deliberately take in this moment, this time, this life, your life.

Some people end up in divorce court or break up because they wait too long to find solutions to their problems. At times, those involved in volatile relationships have the mindset that if they work harder at ‘it’ the can either deal with the issues or they will go away. However, if you are not equipped with the skills, it really doesn’t matter how hard you work at it. For more information, visit my website at: http://www.u2canhavesuccess.com/relationshipsmatter.htm.

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Breaking up can really be a traumatic experience if you’re not prepared for it. Sometimes victims of a break up can really become unreasonable and behave irrationally when thinking of ways to get their ex back. Errors made can do more harm to your chances of getting your ex back than helping you. At the time it appears that the choices you make regarding your ex is the best thing to do at the time. I am going to share with you some of the common mistakes that should be avoided when you are trying to win back your ex.

The most common mistake people make after their breakup is to go into extreme telephone calling and then texting if you won’t answer your cell phone or landline. There is this intense need to just hear your ex’s voice and with some people out of desperation, they will even settle for hearing the sound of their ex on voicemail. Some think the solution is to wear down their ex by calling them. While this may seem like a good idea at the time, it can drive your ex partner further away and create a huge rift between you.

This extreme calling solution to breakup method leads right into another common error, sitting by the phone waiting for your ex to call. Your newly ex partner will not call especially if they were the one that initiated the breakup. They may call to check on your emotional and mental state, but not to talk about getting back together. If your ex does make the call, do not appear desperate, but understand the purpose for the call and that maybe you both need some time to sort things out before you can talk about relationship rescue.

Another major error is going to your ex’s house or where ever they’ve decided to hold up until everything settles down while the emotional intensity of the breakup has subsided. It appears that when you’re ignored after doing the calling and then waiting for a call the next best thing is to force your partner to talk to you by going to their house or even worse their job! Now that’s not good and will only cause more conflict because now you’re placing your ex-partner in an embarrassing situation where they have to explain what’s going on with their co-workers. Best advice, pass on the workplace and just discuss with them if you can meet at a restaurant or public place.

The most disappointing of all these errors is that the appropriate solution is so simple. However, when emotions are involved it also can be the most difficult. After breaking up, both parties should really try spending at least a month without any contact with each other. This time period is recommended because you can take a breather from the relationship and really consider if your partner is truly someone you can be with long term or is it best to just part ways.

These errors can be avoided if you both respect each other’s space and allow some time for things to settle down before you discuss what happened and why it would be a good idea for you stay together. It’s very difficult to have these conversations immediately after a breakup because hurt feelings are involved and the draw of wanting to be with the other person. If you really want back with your ex, remember relationships matter and give it some time so when you do discuss your issues you will be able to do so with a clear head and without all the emotional turmoil that surrounds these types of discussions.

Healing your broken heart should be first before you begin trying to pull back your ex. By keeping a cool head, not showing desperation for the relationship or wanting to cling to your beloved is the beginning to winning back your ex. For more information on how relationships matter, visit my website at: http://www.u2canhavesuccess.com/relationshipsmatter.htm.

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