So you have met a new guy. But what are the signs that he is Mr Right? How do you know if he is the one, your soul mate, that you can be happy ever after with?

Is it Your Intuition?
Often you will know the moment you meet someone that there is something special about them. It’s that ‘eyes meeting across the room’ feeling. We are not talking about sexual attraction here, but something deeper. It’s the same feeling that you might get when you first meet someone who is destined to become a great friend. Your intuition tells you that there is some link between you and this person – like you already know them. There is no desperate desire, just the feeling that it is right that you should know this person.

This is the feeling that people describe when they meet their soul mates. But remember, just because he is a soul mate does not necessarily mean that he is the right life partner for you. There are many kinds of soul mate. Sometimes they are family, sometimes they are just very good friends. So this intuition by itself is not enough to identify your Mr Right. If you find he is not available, or not interested in you, accept it and be friendly. There will be some other purpose to your getting to know him.

Is It Synchronicity?
Synchronicity is the phenomenon of meaningful things happening together in such a way that they are linked, although one thing did not cause the other. It is as if there is a pattern to the events that is showing you that you are going in the right direction. If he is the right guy for you, then getting together should not be too much of a struggle. You will find everything falling into place as if it was ‘meant to be’.

If there are obstacles now and then, they will be overcome; generally, the path is smooth. Sometimes you may meet the right person at the wrong time. Synchronicity is not there and if you try to force a relationship to happen, it will hit a brick wall. Better to let him go. If he is your Mr Right, he will come back into your life again later, when it is the right time for both of you.

Depth
When you get together with Mr Right, of course you will both fall in love. But most people fall in love often. By itself, that is not necessarily a recipe for living happily ever after. Try to look beyond the overwhelming emotion of love and think about whether this is a person you will still want to live with when the first rush of love has died down – as it will. If you find this hard to imagine, consider what you would think if he was a friend of yours.

Do you have plenty of interests in common, or are you just tagging along for his sake? Do you have the same hopes and expectations of life? Do you have the same attitudes to questions like job security, insurance and money management? Do you get along with each other’s families and friends?

These points will be important later down the line. All of them are signs that he is Mr Right – not just the man of the moment.

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We had our first argument last night and he said a lot of cruel things
that really hurt me. I know that he is sorry and didn't mean to say the
things he said - because he sent me flowers today.

I got flowers today. It wasn't our anniversary or any other special day.
Last night he threw me into a wall and then started to choke me.
It seemed like a nightmare but you wake up from nightmares to find
that they aren't real. I woke up this morning sore and bruised all over.
I know he must be sorry - because he sent me flowers today.

I got flowers today. And it wasn't Valentines Day or any other special
day. Last night he beat me and threatened to kill me.
Makeup and long sleeves didn't hide the cuts and bruises this time.
I couldn't go to work because I didn't want anyone to know
But I know he is sorry - because he sent me flowers today.

I got flowers today and it wasn't Mother's Day or any other special day.
Last night he beat me again and it was much worse than all the other
times. If I leave him what will I do? How will I take care of the kids?
What about money? I'm afraid of him and too scared to leave him!
But he must be sorry - because he sent me flowers today.

I got flowers today. Today was a very special day.
It was the day of my funeral.
Last night he finally killed me. I was beaten to death.
If only I would have gathered enough courage and strength to leave him.
So I got flowers today - for the very last time.

~Author Unknown

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