Relationships Matter

The Three Marriages: Reimagining Work, Self and Relationship

A radical, "crystalline" (Elle) approach to integrating our work, relationships, and inner selves from the bestselling author, poet, and speaker. The author of Crossing the Unknown Sea and The Heart Aroused encourages readers to reimagine how they inhabit the worlds of love, work, and self-understanding. Whyte suggests that separating these "marriages" in order to balance them is to destroy the fabric of happiness itself. Drawing from his own struggles and the lives of some of the world's great writers and artists-from Dante to Jane Austen to Robert Louis Stevenson-Whyte explores the ways these core commitments are connected. Only by understanding the journey involved in each of the three marriages and the stages of their maturation, he says, can we understand how to bring them together in one fulfilled life.

Pornified: How Pornography Is Damaging Our Lives, Our Relationships, and

“Strips porn of its culture-war claptrap . . . Pornified may stand as a Kinsey Report for our time.”—San Francisco ChroniclePorn in America is everywhere—not just in cybersex and Playboy but in popular video games, advice columns, and reality television shows, and on the bestseller lists. Even more striking, as porn has become affordable, accessible, and anonymous, it has become increasingly acceptable—and a big part of the personal lives of many men and women. In this controversial and critically acclaimed book, Pamela Paul argues that as porn becomes more pervasive, it is destroying our marriages and families as well as distorting our children’s ideas of sex and sexuality. Based on more than one hundred interviews and a nationally representative poll, Pornified exposes how porn has infiltrated our lives, from the wife agonizing over the late-night hours her husband spends on porn Web sites to the parents stunned to learn their twelve-year-old son has seen a hardcore porn film. Pornified is an insightful, shocking, and important investigation into the costs and consequences of pornography for our families and our culture. Pamela Paul is a contributor to Time magazine and the author of The Starter Marriage and the Future of Matrimony. Formerly a senior editor at American Demographics and a correspondent for The Economist, she writes for such publications as Psychology Today, Self, Marie Claire, Ladies' Home Journal, and The New York Times Book Review. She lives in New York. Welcome to Porn America. Pornography, once the taboo vice that no one dared to mention, has become part of our daily lives—affordable, accessible, anonymous, and increasingly acceptable. The all-pornography, all-the-time mentality is everywhere—not just in cybersex and Playboy magazine but in mainstream magazines, in Paris Hilton's saleability as a celebrity, in the advice columns of women's magazines, and on the bestseller lists. But, even more striking, porn has become a big part of the personal lives of many Americans. Critically acclaimed author Pamela Paul argues that as porn has become more pervasive, it has changed our marriages and families as well as our children's ideas of sex and sexuality. In the dozens of interviews and a nationwide Harris poll that she conducted as part of her research for this book, Paul exposes how porn has infiltrated our lives. From a wife agonizing over the late-night hours her husband spends on porn sites to parents stunned to learn that their twelve-year-old son has seen a hardcore porn film, we see the costs and consequences of pornography as intimacy is replaced by fantasy and emotional isolation. "[Paul] has stripped porn of its culture war claptrap . . . Pornified may stand as a Kinsey report for our time."—San Francisco Chronicle  "[Paul] has stripped porn of its culture war claptrap . . . Pornified may stand as a Kinsey report for our time."—San Francisco Chronicle  "A dire portrait of porn's influence on our lives."—Milwaukee Journal-Sentinel  "A persuasive argument that today's pornography is not the Playboy centerfold or the Deep Throat of yesteryear . . . Paul's remedy charts a sensible middle ground between restraints and free speech."—The Washington Post Book World  "Does for pornography what Eric Schlosser's Fast Food Nation did for junk food—shinning a light on a vast industry most of us have spent little time thinking about."—Connecticut Post "The great virtue of Pamela Paul's book is that it deals with pornography at the level of human experience . . . A refreshing and utterly correct response."—Commentary   "A sharp rebuke to porn’s glamorization."—Los Angeles Times Book Review"An alarming, thought-provoking overview of today’s cyber-sexual society."—The Seattle Times  "Pamela Paul sets out to scare readers about the effects of pornography on American society, and she succeeds mightily."—St. Louis Post-Dispatch "Pamela Paul has written a brave and important book about the ubiquity of porn and how it shapes what we expect of women, sex, and human contact. It's enough to make defenders of an unbridled free market and even  a few Girls Gone Wild fans think twice about the culture we’re living in, and how we made it."—Margaret Talbot, senior fellow, New American Foundation, and staff writer, The New Yorker "Pamela Paul convincingly and sometimes shockingly details the effects on men, women, and children living in a 'pornified' world. Her book should be a wake-up call for parents and should change the way we view—and rationalize viewing—pornography today. As Paul makes clear, porn is not 'cool,' or 'liberating,' or basically benign. It is a poison eroding relationships between men and women and darkening our children's horizons."—Judith Warner, author of Perfect Madness“Pornified is rife with the tales of Americans experiencing a new level of sexual pathos, filled with snapshots of surreptitious lives: it is as compelling as it is troubling. A provocative book, sure to stir debate and reaction.”—Alissa Quart, author of Branded: The Buying and Selling of Teenagers"This is a quietly forceful book. It helps everyone—from libertarian to moralist—by offering a common ground from which to proceed: pornography is one more alienating product of a consumer culture, and in some ways a particularly lonely one. By definition it is selfish. That doesn't mean it needs to be banned; it does mean we need to think about what it's doing to each of us, and to our shared society."—Bill McKibben, author of The End of Nature and Enough

After the Honeymoon: How Conflict Can Improve Your Relationship-Revised

After the honeymoon. The very words carry a burden of sadness, as if for a short while we lived in a golden trance of love, and now we’ve been jolted awake. Immediately comes the thought, “Oh no! Is this the person I’m supposed to spend the rest of my life with?” When choosing a partner, we are choosing, along with that person, a particular set of problems that we will be grappling with for the next ten, twenty, or even fifty years. Dan Wile shows how to take advantage of the inevitable problems that occur in a relationship to deepen the sense of connection. Most of these problems result from feelings we are unable to express and conversations we are unable to have. We become angry because we are unable to confide feeling hurt. We become defensive because we are unable to confide feeling threatened. We become uncompromising because of the hidden compromises we are already making. Exposing these undercurrents can turn fights into intimate conversations.

Collaborative Therapy: Relationships And Conversations That Make a Diffe

Collaborative Therapy: Relationships and Conversations That Make a Difference provides in-depth accounts of the everyday practice of postmodern collaborative therapy, vibrantly illustrating how dialogic conversation can transform lives, relationships, and entire communities. Pioneers and leading professionals from diverse disciplines, contexts, and cultures describe in detail what they do in their therapy and training practices, including their work with psychosis, incarceration, aging, domestic violence, eating disorders, education, and groups. In addition to the therapeutic applications, the book demonstrates the usefulness of a postmodern collaborative approach to the domains of education, research, and organizations.

Dogology: What Your Relationship with Your Dog Reveals about You

Dog owners, this book reveals, fall into 9 distinct personality types: Angel, Dynamo, Soul Mate, Idealist, Observer, Expert, Buddy, Master, and Free Spirit. While most of us recognize that a rescuing Angel needs to save the neediest dog at the local shelter, what makes a Soul Mate a soft touch for round-headed, big-eyed toy breeds such as Shih Tzus, Pugs, and Pekingese.Authors Vicki Croke and Sarah Wilson, experts on the complex bond between dogs and their owners, use quizzes, psychological insights, and humor to analyze why dog owners gravitate toward certain breeds as pets—and to explain what owner’s choices reveal about their character andemotional makeup. With Dogology in hand, anyone visiting a dog park can instantly spot the various types and subtypes, from the Image Maker fashionista with her accessory Yorkie peeking out of her Prada bag, to the Free Spirit, whose dog often bears a botanical name and rarely comes when called.Similarly, readers will themselves learn that paying attention to the words they choose to praise their dog reveals the specific approval that they crave themselves. With quick checklists to identify what type of dog owners readers are, tips for training, and exercises for bonding with one’s dog, Dogology will make a welcome addition to any of the 43.5 million American households that nowown at least one dog.

Learner-Centered Instruction: Building Relationships for Student Success

Shows teachers how to foster positive characteristics of engagement in their studentsLearner-Centered Instruction: Building Relationships for Student Success covers teaching methods, classroom management strategies, and ways to engage students and support their success. Authors Jeffrey H. D. Cornelius-White and Adam P. Harbaugh show K-12 teachers how to use the learner-centered instruction model to develop teacher-student relationships, as well as relationships with parents, administrators, other teachers, and professional organizations. Focusing on teaching as facilitation applied through warmth, trust, empathy, and realness, Learner-Centered Instruction shows teachers how to share control and choice in classroom management through a balance of influence and cooperation. Well-grounded in research and theory, this book emphasizes encouragement, challenge, and adaptation for differentiated instruction through methods such as inquiry, cooperative small group learning, and authentic, relevant endeavors. Key Features and BenefitsIncludes chapter-opening “Reflect on Your Experiences” questions that invite readers to connect to prior knowledge, understanding, and experiencesIncorporates “Case Studies” that connect readers to realistic classroom and teaching scenarios, followed by related “Reflection” questions that ask readers to consider practical applications of the cases discussedHelps readers develop their understanding through skill-building exercises, visual aids, discussion questions, and suggested resources

Relationship-Empowerment Parenting: Building Formative and Fulfilling Re

Raise children to be confident, kind, and responsible and learn to deal proactively with the unique challenges of each stage in parenting.

The Intimacy Dance: A Guide to Long-Term Success in Gay and Lesbian Rela

A book for gays and lesbians in relationships of three years or longer addresses such issues as identities merging, sex waning, the inability to resolve conflicts, and the inability to communicate among others. 25,000 first printing. Tour.

What People Want: A Manager's Guide to Building Relationships That

What People Want, for the first time, addresses the changing demographics and differences in the workplace to highlight what matters most in employee-manager relationships. Based on first-of-its-kind research that assessed the needs of hundreds of professionals across a variety of industries, Terry Bacon explores in-depth the seven most important needs-for trust, challenge, self-worth, competence, appreciation, excitement, and an ability to develop and sustain an identity of merit.

The Unavailable Father: Seven Ways Women Can Understand, Heal, and Cope

Strategies for overcoming a damaged father/daughter relationship Problems between fathers and daughters can damage a young girl's identity, convince her she's unloveable or without worth, and send her into unhealthy adult relationships. This groundbreaking book includes in-depth stories and case histories of a broad spectrum of women over 25 who have recovered and flourished in their professional and personal lives despite the lack of a father's recognition and affection. While the legacy of pain that these fathers leave is deep, there is much that can be done to alleviate and even conquer it. Using these women's stories as well as her insights from her private practice, the author outlines basic strategies to overcome the void left by an abusive, absent, alcoholic, mentally ill, irresponsible, selfish, or unloving father. Written by Sarah Simms Rosenthal who has a thriving practice in New York City Reveals how to understand the truth about your childhood Includes strategies for discovering and analyzing past adult relationship mistakes—both personal and professional Offers successful techniques for establishing new patterns of behavior The women whose stories are told in The Unavailable Father have learned to recognize and change the patterns instigated by their dysfunctional fathers and have moved forward, fulfilled.