Relationships Matter

Most people think that poor communication is the reason why so many relationships end, but it’s actually the way we learn to think about our partners and our problems that kills trust, erodes intimacy, and cripples communication. In Why Can’t You Read My Mind?, psychologist Jeffrey Bernstein reveals—for the first time—the nine toxic thought patterns at work in virtually every intimate relationship, and shows you how the distorted, negative, exaggerated thoughts you and your partner may have about each other can destroy the love you share. Based on years of successful couples counseling, Bernstein has developed a simple yet powerful approach for breaking the toxic thinking cycle and helps you establish new and more positive thinking habits for solving your problems and dealing with the stresses of everyday life. Filled with practical advice on topics like fighting fairly and purging emotional ghosts as well as fun, easy-to-follow exercises that will keep your romance alive for years to come, Why Can’t You Read My Mind? is an invaluable tool for those seeking to restore—or create—a happy, loving, and fulfilling relationship.

Don’t let these toxic thought patterns come between you and lasting love:

The All or Nothing Trap * Catastrophic Conclusions * The Should Bomb * Label Slinging * The Blame Game * Emotional Short-Circuit * Overactive Imagination * Head Game Gamble * Disillusionment Doom

User Reviews about Why Can't You Read My Mind? Overcoming the 9 Toxic Thought Patterns that Get in the Way of a Loving Relationship

This book has so far helped me to realize things that I do and say that are toxic. My relationship is better already. -- Now I See...

Excellent read in the relations between men and women. It was very eye opening and made me realize some deestructive patterns I've been in durning past relationships. I would suggest this one to anyone, whether you are in a relationship, married, single, whatever. There is much good info in this one. I also suggest Women Are Crazy, Men Are Stupid: The Simple Truth to a Complicated Relationship. -- Why Can't You Read My Mind...

How simply written and oddly correct. I don't find that everything applies in my relationship but it's been really helpful. Definitely a good tool for anyone in or desiring to be in a relationship. I think it can also be helpful in helping couples find a common starting ground in trying to renew their relationship. I personally like the writing style, humor involved and simplicity of the authors message. I like to read but I can't stand technical jargon and this book has none which makes it great for everyone. -- Good for everyone

This book provided excellent information on the power of thoughts and how thoughts play a role in male/female relationships. I like the way that it was laid out in a "step-by-step" way, which was easy to understand. It explained why thing "go wrong" for most people and gave simple solutions on how to turn things around. I found it to be a quick and easy read and continue to use it as a reference point. -- excellent into on the power of thoughts

I was searching for a book after my boyfriend and I kept fighting and having the SAME fights over and over. After a divorce - I was also wondering if it was all me. This book certainly helped point out patterns in my own behavior/thought patterns that were clearly sinking my current relationship. What was interesting is that the thought patterns were totally different from my last relationship!

Putting the book to work is taking some time and I am constantly reminding myself to banish the toxic thoughts! I've now given the book to my boyfriend to read... I know my communication skills are slowly improving.

I think over time - it will certainly be fabulous! -- Very Informative