Relationships Matter

This book is designed for people who are either in a committed relationship or want to be. A committed relationship is one path toward spiritual growth and transformation. It is not the only path, nor is it a very easy path. The seven spiritual laws discussed in Part Two of this book provide a roadmap for couples who are committed to their mutual spiritual growth. This simple but profound guide to growth and happiness for couples will help you and your partner weather the ups and downs of your relationship so that you can grow together and deepen the intimacy between you.

User Reviews about Creating a Spiritual Relationship

This is a concise and clear guide to relationships. I particularly like the beginning, where the author states that it's OK NOT to be in a relationship and that one needs to learn to live happily alone before trying to get into a relationship. The section on the different types of commitments is also very helpful.

The only part I disagree with is the section where he states that when you are find fault with your partner it ALWAYS means that you are projecting some part of yourself that you don't want to own onto your partner. I don't think this is true. Sometimes you may just not like certain aspects of your partner's behavior or personality. That's OK, but you'd better learn to ACCEPT it! -- Practical as well as Spiritual

Someone recommended me this book, saying it was one of the most difficult things to hear on the topic of relationship, but was worth every word.
I bought and read it, but I was a bit disappointed. First of all, it does speak the truth and tells you what you need in order to build a solid relationship. I was only disappointed in its lack of depth -- but that is because I have read many other books on the subject.

Ferrini's book is very short -- I read it in about 3 hours total. It's listed as being something like over 120 pages, but the real content of the book ends on page 95, and the rest of the pages list other books by the author.

If you've *never* read a book on how to truly relate as human beings in the present moment (rather than just trying to solve problems), read this. If you've read anything else on spiritual relationships (especially anything by John Wellwood, Steven Harrison, or Don Miguel Ruiz) , this book will likely be a quick summary of what you already know, and will feel like it lacks any depth whatsoever.

I don't mean to put this book down -- I did learn from this book, and there are people whom I have recommended this particular book over others because it's simple and easy to understand. -- Simple and straightforward

This is probably the most evolved perspective I have read on the subject of relationship between two adults. There is no doubt that one is personally responsible not only for one's own comments and actions and how well these represent self and have impact on the other, but also,in relationship, one has a great opportunity to encourage the other to express the best of themselves. It is high time we thought about operating at that level. This book has become a prime resource in my counseling practice.
Appreciation and gratitude to Paul Ferrini! -- mature perspective

I never expect a book so concise and straight to the point of intimacy and building a real relationship. It is a must for those who wants to know about love, intimacy and relationships. -- Excellent book

This is a relatively short book and can be a quick read. However, the content is such that sentence after sentence may be used as seed thoughts for meditations that will illuminate our experiences leading us to the deeply fulfilling task of owning and transforming our lives. As we become more authentic, so will our relationships. Paul writes very clearly and simply, yet with great depth. I was particularly struck by the chapters/laws on mirroring and forgiveness. This is a book I will return to many times. -- Roadsigns and Maps to True Intimacy